Monday, August 2, 2010

I am ashamed


We had this one woman come into the Brooklyn EMC Center. She has five children. The oldest child was 22 years old. Her husband and her had divorced, and she became pregnant by her recent boyfriend. This woman was in her forties. She had never had an abortion, but wanted one now. When asked why, she said she felt ashamed. She did not want anyone to know even her own children that she had had become pregnant outside of a marital relationship. We then told her about the power of love. That she does not have to be ashamed. Her kids will love her no matter what because she is their mother. We showed no judgement towards her, and she knew it. Tears flowed from her eyes because she felt so grateful and full of hope. She decided to keep the baby. Most of the time when a woman wants an abortion, it's because they feel alone. All they need is love and support. These abortion clinics do not offer this. All they offer is their cold metal instruments and a bill. Once the procedure is done, it is done. They want nothing else to do with the woman, and they are left feeling alone and unloved once again. Abortion is not a way out. It is just a deeper dive into hopelessness and shame.

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