Thursday, August 21, 2014

Urgent prayers needed

You might remember my previous blog of a few days ago when I wrote about a 16 year old girl who is now 23 weeks along in her pregnancy.  I want to provide an update on this mother and her baby.   I also want to ask for your prayers in support of this mother's decision to keep her baby, and for her parents, the baby's grandparents, who are pressuring her to have an abortion.

I counseled this 16 year old mother at the EMC office in Queens, NY.   We talked for more than an hour. She is musilm and pro life as you can imagine. The Muslim religion teaches that when a mother is pregnant, the child in the womb is a baby.   The baby is a human life, therefore Muslims generally do not support abortion. But sex before marriage is a serious offense and can be severely punished.  This young mother was very scared the day I saw her.  She is in high school and her parents did not know about her pregnancy at that time.  She wanted to tell her parents, but did not know how to begin.

We talked about the abortion procedure, the risks and complications.  I started talking about the intrinsic value of life and the awful sin against God that is killing a defenseless unborn child.
I told her as well that her mother loves her. A mother never wants something bad to happen to her sons and daughters.   I asked her not to be afraid of keeping her baby and to go forward in her pregnancy. Her mother will eventually support her in everything she decides to do because a mother loves her child.

After our conversation this young mother decided to keep her baby.   I gave her EMC's pamphlet and additional information about the Sisters of Life and other organizations who would help her in preparing for birth and caring for her baby afterward.  I was so happy that God used me to turn around this young mother from thinking about abortion to a firm decision to keep her child.   This was the first time ever I had the opportunity to speak to a muslim girl about her faith and the precious gift of life within her.  I was celebrating in my heart and mind and praising God for her baby who we saved.

But yesterday she called me back. Her parents now are forcing her to have an abortion. They do not want her to keep the baby.  She called me scared and asked for help.    I am springing into action to help this young mother save the life within her.    I am ready to support her in doing her first and most important job as a mother, which is keeping her baby safe while in her womb.   Even now that her parents are scared for her and giving her the wrong advice, she is brave and asking me for help.   I know that God will give her the courage to do what she knows to be right.   I know that her parents will love her and her baby, their grandchild, in time.    I pray that I will keep my heart and my mind open to God so that the Holy Spirit can fill me with God's love and the words that this mother needs to hear.   I pray that God will activate others in our pro life network to provide a safe home for this young mother and her baby until her family is able to cope with this situation and welcome them back with love.

It is times like this that I need you and your prayers most of all.   Please I beg you to pray for this young mother and her baby ....and for me.  Pray especially for her of course, but I ask you to pray for me so the Holy Spirit will light me up and help me to convince her again to keep her baby safe, to love her baby always and to trust God that He will help her parents see that she is strong in her Muslim faith, following God's teaching about Love, and doing the right thing.   

Thank you so much for your prayers and your support, both spiritually and financially.    I am devoted to helping this young mother and her baby as I am devoted to helping every woman who walks through the doors at EMC.   I promise to keep you updated on what happens when I know new information.   Where two or more of us are gathered in prayer, even over the internet, I know that God will hear us.  

Loving God, please help me and listen to our prayers.    Please help me to convince this young mother to put herself in Your Hands.   She has kept her baby for 23 weeks.   Her baby is fully formed, moving and alive inside her.  It won't be long now.   
Please God, give her the strength to carry her child to term, just a few weeks more!  


Today I want to write about a very exciting event. God used the work of the EMC team and my counseling to save a baby on Monday!

Monday was a very busy day. We saw several women in the office where I volunteered. I had the opportunity to counsel these women. The women were all abortion minded when they came in. After I counseled with them they all became undecided - praise god! We need prayers for these women that they will grow to love their babies and learn to become good mothers, or in the alternative allow adoptive parents to cherish and care for these babies as the mothers wish they could.

One of the women I counseled on Monday actually told me before she left the office that she definitely wanted to keep her baby! I am so happy that God used me to speak to that mother on Monday. There is no better use of my time than to be volunteering at EMC offices where I can be part of God's plan to save his children. I am still excited today! I hope God will help me use this energy to save even more babies. Every life is precious. Every baby deserves a chance to live.

There are a lot of emotions that we feel every day while working at EMC. Some emotions are so good, like surprise or happiness when a woman comes willing to take the baby. But some emotions are bad, such as anxiety, sadness or disappointment when we try to convince a woman to keep her baby and we find it impossible.

To be positive, now I am going to focus on the good feelings. the emotions that we feel when we get a turn around are a mix of surprise, satisfaction and pride. In summary: Happiness. We use this happiness to help mothers feel love for their baby and to believe that there is a way for them to keep their baby.

Nowadays I am studying psychology and the emotions in particular. My studies help me when I do the counseling. I try to understand the woman and be emphatetic with them at the same time as I am trying to change their point of view.

When they realize that they are pregnant, most of them feel fear, nervousness and aprehension. These are emotions that they can't control. when we can't control something, it scares us. We want to return as soon as possible to our "comfort area" where we can control everything. Thats why women decide to have an abortion. It's because they think that it is the best and fastest way to fix their emotions. I counsel them that this is not the way. Killing the baby will only create more out of control emotions.

In addition to explaining to them the risk that abortion involves, I also talk to them about their emotions and teach them how they can control their emotions. This technique is something very important for all people to learn. Presently that's the way I do my counseling and I have achieved success in a lot of them.

Today is one such example. we are celebrating that a baby was saved!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Miracle on 149th Street

So today I witnessed nothing short of a miracle. A client I've been talking to for a number of weeks yesterday text me yesterday to tell me she was having the abortion. She was thirteen weeks, she had the sonogram on Monday and was convinced yesterday that she didn't have it in her to bring up this baby and that abortion was the only option. 

This morning, however, I truly witnessed a miracle, and the power and strength of God. I woke up to a text from her, telling me that she had decided to keep the baby after a talk with her family. This girl, who yesterday, was so convinced that she was going to abort her baby, had now decided to give it life. Something pushed her to changed her mind, and whatever that was, was the intercession of God. God has a plan for this baby, and helped this girl to see the most beautiful gift of life that was growing inside her. I had sent out prayer requests for this girl specifically. PRAYER DOES WORK, and it is so powerful, and God is so loving and merciful and good. Sometimes, during my experience, I have underestimated just how powerful prayer and God's love is, and it's times like this I am so thankful, and blessed to witness such miracles. 

Can I just ask everyone one favour? Just to say one prayer of thanksgiving. And I just want to thank everyone for their continued prayers, they really do work! 


Ideas worth sharing (Conception to birth)

As it has been a really busy week, this blog will be a short one! Between the three clinics, we have seen a lot of women. Many of them are needing our prayers, so please storm heaven! We are all finding the work pretty intense this week, but I for one have found comfort in the following passage from Joshua 1:9.

I just wanted to draw your attention to a video I came across a few years ago and was reminded of today. It depicts the development of the baby from conception to birth. There are many videos out there, but I think this one is particularly amazing. (From 2:01 - 6:00 minutes)

When it comes to talking about pro-life issues, there are many different ways we can approach a situation. However, over the past few weeks I have become convinced that our key approach should be one of love, truth and compassion. Looking towards the development of the baby can often shed a positive light on the baby. A 20 day old foetus may not look like what we recognise as a 'baby', but that 20 day old foetus looks exactly how a human should 20 days after conception. Just as we look different now than the day we were born. A baby looks like a baby ... and a toddler, a toddler ... and a foetus, a foetus! At the moment of conception, a new human being exists that has never existed before. A new member of the human family. 

Lets work to protect the most vulnerable members of our family. The unborn.

God bless you all, and good night! Vx.

Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for us.
St Michael the Archangel, pray for us.

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Please pray!!!

Please take a few moments to pray for one of the young ladies I talked with today. She wants to keep her child and knows that it would not be right to have an abortion. However, she is under a lot of pressure from her mother and the fiance.

So I am asking for some prayers for this client that she continues to have that courage and strength to stand up for what is right and that her mother opens her heart to the truth.

Monday, August 18, 2014

URGENT: Please Pray

Please pray for the dozen abortion seeking clients we saw in our offices today. 
10 of them left undecided.
There's still hope for these babies.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

East 149 st

On friday I had one of my best experiences in the Bronx office.
I was suppose to stay in the office from 8:45 till 4:45 but I decided to stay even longer.
I believe in saving lifes and helping others specially women in crisis situatione so whats the problem staying more time at the office to help them.

Also I spent 3 hours outside in fron of Planned Parenthood abortion clinic doing sidewalk counseling and giving up houndred of pamphlets.
I gave 200 pamphlets in half an hour. Its amaizing seeing people from the Bronx taking our pamphlets. 

Then after spending 3 hours outside the office I went to the office and talked  to 4 girls in total, and after they all left the office they left the office wanted to be parent.

Thank God.

Saturday, August 16, 2014


Hi everyone! 

This Thursday I celebrated my twentieth birthday. However it was a bittersweet day. All of this week, Vanessa and I have been sidewalk counselling at the abortion clinic on Willoughby St. Thursday was especially tough. A client I had been trying to help on Tuesday, who was adamant she was having the abortion, showed up for her appointment. There was nothing I could say or do to help her see that there was other options. She was 19 and in college, and thought abortion was the easy way out of her crisis pregnancy. She told me on Tuesday she would be able to handle it. However the girl I saw come out that abortion clinic didn't have me convinced. She was in a complete trance, with a look of bewilderment and sheer isolation. That was hard. Just two days earlier I saw her seven week old babies heartbeat in the sonogram room. The baby had moved its arm, or what we suspected it to be. But she couldn't look at the sonogram. I was really upset at this prospect.

However Msg Reilly was a real inspiration that day. His dedication and commitment to the pro-life cause is one I admire so much. I was truly blessed to have him there, and his wise words really helped me. He reminded us of the story of Calvary. Jesus had to die, for the Roman soldier who pierced his side, to fully realise he was in fact the Son of God.  He said that this was the same case with the women who have an abortion. With some of them, it is not until after the abortion that they realise that it was a human life that was taken away. And we need to pray for these women, to change their hearts so that they can save the lives of their babies. 

God bless, 


Constant Presence

This week, Laura and I spent the majority of our mornings sidewalk counselling outside an abortion clinic on Willoughby Street. Late in the week, we had the privilege of meeting, for the second time, Msgr Reilly. He is an incredible prolifer who has spent years praying outside abortion clinics peacefully. He gave us some incredible insights, and explained the importance of having a peaceful, prayerful presence outside the clinics. (

On the 14th of August, Laura's birthday, we noticed one of her clients from last week (who had left the office still wanting an abortion) go in for an abortion. We tried to get her to come out, and we immediately prayed and passed on the prayer request. Unfortunately, despite Laura's best efforts, the girl was intent on getting the abortion. We prayed for her and the baby, but her mind was made up. A few hours later she walked back out - a completely different girl. She looked sad and in shock. She walked straight past Msgr Reilly and refused to take a leaflet. When he realised that she was Laura's client, he explained to us, quite beautifully, about the story of calvary.
He reminded us that, as Our Lord was crucified, only one of the two thieves were converted. And then, even after He died, for the Roman soldier, it took for him to pierce the side of Jesus to realise that, truly, He was the Son of the Living God. Jesus died. Our Lord and saviour was killed.  
This, he told us, shows what happens so often to the women. When the life of their child is taken, when the abortion is done, then they realise that truly, this was a child. This was their child and they chose death. How heartbreaking to know that as they walk out of those clinics they might, for the first time, be realising the life that could and should have been. 

We can't expect to convert all the women who walk into those clinics. Even 1 in 2 would be an achievement. But something we have learned this week, is that, even if for the times we can't change their mind, maybe our presence will make them reconsider their options, if they find themselves in a similar situation in the future. As long as those women are alive, there is hope for the souls. Our God is forgiving and merciful. We are all sinners. 

I saw firsthand today, the importance of being a constant presence outside abortion clinics. This morning, as I walked into Court Street (where we have our office 3 floors above Planned Parenthood), a woman praying the rosary tried to give me a 'Pregnant? ... We'll help' brochure. I explained what we did in our office and told her to send any women up that she speaks to. At 9;30, a woman came in to the office looking to talk through her options. It turns out that two years ago, she had an abortion in our building. Apparently, a woman had offered her information and prayed for her. She went ahead for the abortion anyway, as she felt like she had no emotional support from her family. However, finding herself in the same situation this week, she decided to walk to the clinic at the same time she did 2 years ago, in the hope that she might see the same woman standing, praying, and offering help!! Which she did! The lady gave her the same brochure, talked with her, and sent her up to our office. I was able to get her in touch with the Sisters of Life, who will be able to offer her all the help she needs. 
So, 2 years ago, that lady standing praying probably felt that she hadn't achieved anything, but maybe now, 2 years down the line, the fruits of her untiring labour and constant witness will be seen. 
How beautiful to see God work in such ways!
God bless that woman who has been praying there every Saturday for years!

God bless, Vx

Our Lady of Gaudalupe, pray for us.
St Michael the Archangel, pray for us. 

Jesus is the Answer

I want to share with you what happened in the office recently as I sat with a client and her (ex) boyfriend, the father of her child. 

Discussion about pregnancy and abortion and options and life situations turned into a few hours of "couples counseling." Although the client had said she was pretty set on abortion, she said ideally she would want to keep the baby and be in a relationship with the father. He apparently wants the same thing so we talked about the issues and reasons behind the break up and what it is that is keeping them from being together. 
After a couple hours, it felt like they were going in circles and the only solution I could think of was to give it to God. I knew from earlier that the girl was a Christian but I wasn't sure where he stood but eventually I felt like all I could do was ask him how he felt about praying. He said he didn't know what he believes but after I shared about the ways God helps me through things and can change hearts, he agreed to pray right then and there.
So on the spot he took her hand and out loud prayed for Jesus to help him and her. It was a powerful moment!
After praying, he said that he would keep praying and that his friends would think he was crazy and ask who he is talking to but he will just be like, "Dude I'm talking to Jesus!"
I was amazed!
Now the girl is still considering abortion but I encouraged them to pray about everything individually and together. She has a sonogram scheduled with us for this coming Thursday, so hopefully that will help change her mind completely.
Please join me in thanking God for what He is doing in their hearts and in continuing to pray for them as they try to sort things out.

Laura and I outside Dr Emily's recently:

Thursday, August 14, 2014

A beating heart...

Being pro-life has always been a key element of my life and beliefs. However, never having much experience in the movement and standing at the sidelines, it's always easy to say you're against abortion and leave it at that. 

This summer I've really came to realise what it means to be pro-life. Your beliefs become reality when you sit in that sonogram with a woman, you see her seven or nine week old baby, sometimes moving around, and what really sticks with me most is that you can physically see that baby's heart beating. Abortion stops a beating heart. It's at that moment when you realise that you have to fight for this life with every fibre in your body. I've never experienced anything more emotionally challenging than sitting with a woman, who after just witnessing her seven week old baby move around her womb, still feels her only option is to abort this human life, this beating heart. This mother recognises this life growing inside her, and sometimes you feel the tears well up in your eyes and it takes everything in you not to break down. 

Please pray for a girl I was speaking with yesterday. She's pregnant with identical twins, and wants an abortion. I saw two beating hearts in the sonogram room with her. Those twins were eight weeks old, their fingers and toes fully developed, they can now hiccup and have milk buds for teeth. She always wanted twins, but not just now. Today I was helping a woman who had four abortions in the past. She feels guilt and regret, yet views abortion as her only option. Society and organisations such as Planned Parenthood lead women to think abortion is their only option to a crisis pregnancy. There is help out there, and in the majority of cases I have experienced, it's not the fact it's an unwanted baby, it's a lack of resources and time. Society and government should be helping these women, but instead, organisations such as Planned Parenthood are only interested in making money from vulnerable women. Abortion counsellers receive commission if they manage to convince women to have an abortion. We live in a society that ignores the painful consequences of abortion, and women are not fully aware of the physical and emotional risks that abortion can lead to. As I said before, one of most beautiful things to witness is a woman in need realising that she can actually bring life into world, and we need to make sure women know this. Blessed Mother Theresa once said 

"The so-called right to abortion has pitted mothers against their children and women against men. It has sown violence and discord at the heart of the most intimate human relationships. It has aggravated the derogation of the father's role in an increasingly fatherless society. It has portrayed the greatest of gifts--a child--as a competitor, an intrusion and an inconvenience. It has nominally accorded mothers unfettered dominion over the dependent lives of their physically dependent sons and daughters."

Thank you for reading this blog, and hope everyone has a blessed weekend. 

God bless, 

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Stand in the Rain.

This past week I traveled down to Texas to be with family as we buried my grandfather who recently passed away.
Today was my first day back at work and I spent the morning at Dr Emily's abortion clinic in the Bronx. 

It was a stormy morning so naturally umbrellas were a must. I didn't have much luck talking to the girls going in, but as I stood there praying, it was a struggle to not be frustrated.

It can be difficult to maintain an attitude of love in the midst of so much death and lies and hate. But the thing that really encouraged me this morning was Psalm 23. It says The Lord prepares a table for me in the presence of my enemies.

This particular verse reminded me of the message the pastor shared at my grandfather's funeral. He talked about how in certain eras of war if one army was overly confident of victory they would bring a picnic to the battlefield to celebrate and display just how confident they were.

Well, that's what God does for us because we can be 100% sure of victory through Him. Even when I stand here angry and frustrated at the injustice all around us, I can thank God for the victory He has already won.

There's a song by Superchick called "Stand in the Rain." It kept playing in my head all morning as I both literally and Spiritually stood my ground in the rain. This is what these women need to hear--encouragement. They need to be empowered to stand strong in the midst of the chaos and pain surrounding them. We interns have the opportunity to speak to those in deep distress and call them up to stand strong in the rain. This is a battle worth fighting because through Christ we are victorious!

Wet wet wet

This is my last week here and i don't know how to express how sad I feel seeing this getting finished. I spent most part of the last days working on the street, what made me a better counseleur by practice and watching others. Today was a rainy day and I was ordered to stay at doctor Emily´s with Hannah. She was controlling the front door and I was in charge of the back one. Not two many clients showed up in this morning, just one or two, something that doesn't mean that yo have to stand there in a passive way. That´s a great opportunity to reflexion and prayers, so thats what I did.

After the wet morning I went to Queens where, for example, I had one client who came to have and abortion and left undecided and with an appointment for a sonogram for tomorrow. She didn´t wanted to think what she was about doing, but once I talked to her and explained the reality of it, she became emotional and many things on her mind changed. Lets see what happens tomorrow.


As you may know at the offices that are located in the Bronx, Queens and Brooklyn the clients can have free pregnancy tests, free counseltation on the methods of abortion and options and a free sonogram.
So everyday we recieve more or less like 15 girls, but it depens because sometimes are less busy than others.

Those girls that comes to our offices may leave willing to keep the baby or undecided, so we need to follow them up to see how are they doing, keep talking to them and help them in anything they need and of course check if they went for a sonogram or if they already did ask them how was it and what are their thoughts afterwards.
But sometimes is not always like that. A few girls come just for a pregnancy test or for a sonogram wich measn they want to keep the baby. They want to be parenst.

Those days when I see girls willing to be parent and never thought in having an abortion before makes me so happy and remind me that theres still hope.

Thank you.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

We can see Him working (Part 3)

So I really thought part two would end this mixed up tale, but obviously not! 

The latest news is that my client and her family have moved across the country ... This past Monday! My heart broke when I heard the news that they would be going so soon. This girl finds a new way to break my heart each day, but she assures me moving is the best for her. 
She has the other kids enrolled in school there and was all packed and ready to go. I was hoping to see her one more time before she left, but it was not to be. Of course, I hope she keeps in touch when she goes. 
Please pray that amidst the stress of moving and settling in that she finds the strength to choose life and love for her unborn  child. She has assured me that she has started taking prenatal vitamins, and that I can get excited for this baby. 
Praise God. But lets keep her and her whole family in our prayers. 

God bless, Vx.

Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for us. 
St. Michael the Archangel, pray for us. 

Monday, August 11, 2014

Yes, but think about him

Hello again, my dear readers. Today i want to share with you the story of Lorena. She had a miscarriage in her first pregnancy and now she´s got two kids. She came to our Queens office to have an abortion. The reason why she wanted it is that she feels a strong pain in her stomach. She felt that in before she had the miscarriage and she was scared of what could happen in this one. Also, her economical situation is not that good so it would be difficult to afford three kids. I show her a video that explained how abortion really is and the consequences of it. I asked her to imagine that life she had inside growing in few years. I wanted her to stop thinking for one second about what can happen to her and start thinking in her new kid one. She left the office undecided, with lots of things on mind, nervous and scared. I showed her support an compassion by texts and not a long time after she told me she wanted to have the baby. The problem is that she doesn't  know what causes her pain and she is going to the doctor shortly.

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Busy week!!

This Wednesday, I was fortunate enough to be able to attend the profession of first vows by the Sisters of Life. The Mass was beautiful - and each and every Sister seemed to be glowing with the Holy Spirit! At the reception,  the kids were all running and playing around the grounds, having a great time. It was just so uplifting, and pro-life! (John 10:10)  

On Thursday night, a couple of the interns went to and Off Broadway show with Chris, called 'Atomic'. The performers were incredible, and most of them had performed on Broadway - one guy had played Valjean in Les Mis!! 

The show dealt with the morality surrounding the Manhattan Project, which resulted in the bombing of Hiroshima. It was interesting to note the genuine attempt to end the war and save lives ... By creating and atomic bomb and killing thousands of innocent people ... It reminded me of the abortion situation in the US and all over the world - people are trying to 'save women' but killing children and ruining countless other lives at the same time. Our duty to protect others cannot be morally fulfilled with the taking of other lives, it could be argued. The show certainly gave us a lot of think about.  

On Friday, Laura and I were asked to speak for a few minutes each at an event called the 'Womens Equality Day Reformed'. We spoke about the internship we have been doing and our work. We were both quite nervous, but everyone was so kind to us, and so we managed. It was inspiring for us to listen to the stories of people living the prolife vocation in so many ways. Mums, wives, pastors, scientists, and politicians. We felt privileged to have been able to take part in the day. The honouree for this year was Eileen Slattery, wife of Chris. It was nice to hear more about her story and her contribution to the pro-life movement in New York.  

At night, Laura and I went with Eileen to our first ever Opus Dei event, where we listened to meditations, had a talk, and spent some invaluable time in the chapel. A few pointers that stuck in my mind:

- The truth will set you free

- To be humble is to walk in truth

- Let it be done unto me according to thy word

- Blessed are the poor in spirit for they shall see God

- We need to de-clutter our minds in order to make room for God. 

God bless, Vx

Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for us.
St. Michael the Archangel, pray for us. 


On Friday. Vanessa and I had the honour of delivering a brief speech to the "Women's Equality Day Reformed" group. The event honoured Eileen Slattery, and her marvellous contribution to the pro-life movement. It really was so inspiring and encouraging listening to her testimony and I would just like to take this opportunity to congratulate her again on her award! 

We spoke about our work within this internship, and the challenges we are presented with. We also talked about how the internship has affected our lives, and encouraged us to be more active within the pro-life movement and the strive to end abortion. Listening to so many inspirational women, and their roles in the movement was inspirational. I hope to live in the generation that can bring an end to the culture of death, and to help give meaning and fulfilment to the incredible work these women do. 

This week has been pretty full on. Last weekend, we were at a pro-life camp in Utica, NY. The camp was so educational and thought provoking, and provided a deep insight into many of the pro-life issues in today's society, including euthanasia, organ donation etc. We met some great, young people, who were so passionate about the cause! It really was so intriguing looking at American law and politics regarding pro-life issues, and the different methods as to how we can communicate the pro-life message to those in power.

This week I have truly felt the power of prayer, and I would just like to thank everyone for their continued prayers and thoughts. It really is a blessing to be here, and I couldn't do it without you all. 

Hope everyone has a truly blessed weekend, 

God bless

Saturday, August 9, 2014

turn around

Today I am going to talk about my last turn around. It was two weeks ago when I was in the Queen's office. One latin girl came asking for an abortion. She was 23 years old. Fortunately, it was on Thursday, so Rosana was there to do the sonogram, which is something that helps to change the client's mind. And also, she came with her mother, who was very catholic and therefore Pro-life. However , she said she would give her support regardless of her decision. One of the reasons the client wanted the abortion was becouse of her boyfriend. They didn't have a good relationship and also he didn't want to keep the baby. I talked for a while with her and her mother. I showed them the risk of abortion and also we talked about her relationship. At the end of the counseling, She changed her decision and she decided to keep the baby. This  made me feel so happy.

Coming Clean... The Truth Will Set You Free

I am happy to say that your prayers for the young mother I wrote about last have been answered. She has spoken to her parents and they are happy to be grandparents and are going to support her. Her biggest fear was breaking the news to her parents. She said that they would be upset and angry with her for getting pregnant, so her solution had been to have the abortion and never tell her parents anything. Had she chosen this, she still would have that always in the back of her mind, always not being honest with her parents. And maybe it would never come up, but she would have had to live with knowing that her parents were grandparents, while they were completely unaware.

When she chose to keep her child, she realized that she would have to talk to her parents as they were going to find out eventually. But she still felt burdened down and afraid that they might not be happy with her choice as it would interfere with her college plans. With my encouragement and the support of the child's father, she spoke with her parents.

The next day I received a text from this young mother that said, "My parents are not upset with me. They are happy. They said everything happens for a reason. And it won't affect my school because they will help me."

This client had been afraid of her parents, as so many of my clients have, and I encouraged her to talk to them as they wouldn't be upset with you for long, if at all. Through the Grace of God, she had the courage to conquer her fears and choose the right thing and be honest with herself and her family; and it set her free.

Friday, August 8, 2014

Alucinante turn around

El otro día estaba trabajando en la oficina de Queens y sobre las 12:00 del medio dia llegó una chica.
Ella tení 16 años y era musulmana.
Era la primera vez en tres veranos seguidos que tuve un cliente musulman.

Después de dar positivo en la prueba de embarazo le enseñé el vídeo explicativo de los dos procedimientos de abortos que existen del primer tremestre y segundo tremestre y empezamos a hablar.

Ella me dijo que sabía que lo llevaba en su vientre era un bebé, una persona humana. Que era pro life y que estaba en contra del aborto, pero que al tener tan solo 16 años, estar asustada y que su madre podría enfadarse o decepcionarse con ella, pensaba en abortar y acabar rápido con el "problema".

Después de hora y media hablando con ella conseguí convencerla y que de verdad esa no era la mejor opción. Que hay muchas mas alternativas y maneras de seguir para adelante y que tener el bebé no le impediría para nada seguir con sus estudios y ser feliz en la vida.
La joven finalmente decidió volver para un sonograma el jueves siguiente.

Al despedirme de ella me acordé que en la oficina del Bronx esta de voluntaria Proma, una chica increíble de 20 años de aquí de New York, y que es mora.
Por lo tanto podría ayudarme con mi cliente y conseguir convencerla para seguir adelante con el bebé.
Hablé con Proma y le gustó la idea de cambiarnos de oficina el jueves, para que así ella podría ir a la oficina de Queens y hablar con la chica y yo la sustituyo en la oficina del Bronx.

Finalmente el jueves, después de tener l sonograma y hablar con Proma, tendrá al bebé! Gracias a Dios!

Thursday, August 7, 2014

síndrome post-aborto

Depresión, hostilidad y conducta autodestructiva son algunas de las consecuencias psíquicas que sufren las mujeres que han abortado. Según un estudio que he leído, el 59% de las mujeres que abortan tienen altas probabilidades de sufrir problemas psiquiátricos graves y permanentes. 

El síndrome post-aborto puede tardar años en manifestarse debido a la represión a la que recurren muchas mujeres como mecanismo de defensa. Después del trauma que supone un aborto se deteriora la afectividad, la capacidad de querer, la voluntad y todo lo demás viene en cascada, los síntomas más frecuentes son la ansiedad, conducta agresiva, pesadillas, pensamientos o actos suicidas, bulimia, anorexia, abuso de alcohol y drogas y ruptura de relaciones en pareja. 

Todos los días vienen mujeres a la oficina sin saber la existencia del síndrome post-aborto o teniendo una mínima idea sobre ello. Muchas parejas de las que vienen con la intención de abortar, piensan que un bebé es un estorbo en su vida, una carga.. y no se dan cuenta que traer vida a este mundo es la cosa más hermosa y que lo único que puede convertirse en una carga será acarrear con cualquiera de estos síntomas. 

We can see Him working (Part 2)

Knowing that this girl had her abortion booked for today, I didn't sleep well and woke up to a text from someone who had been speaking with the Sisters of Life - Apparently they were not convinced that our client would choose life for her baby. I started praying as soon as I woke up, and text her at around 8am, to urge her to get on her knees and pray before making any decisions. I didn't hear from her all morning so I was hoping she'd slept in and not went to the appointment. So I just got on with sidewalk counselling at Planned Parenthood. 

A few hours in, I was speaking to Laura about various things with my back to PP. She asked me where the girl's appointment was, and I said I had no idea about where or what time it was. 

Laura pointed out that a girl was walking towards the door so I walked across the road but she ignored me and walked in. About 2 meters behind her was ... guess who ... my client! I couldn't believe it!! I thought she had seen me and was going to walk past so I walked in front of her and said 'Hey! What are you doing here!?!' and hugged her. She looked pretty shocked to see me! I could hardly believe my eyes. I had NO idea her appointment would be down at Bleeker St when she lives up in the Bronx. Crazy. 
I pleaded with her not to go in but she really wanted to get a sonogram to see what the people there had to say about her health. I told her we would do one for free or I could get her an another appointment with the pro-life doctor. She was determined to go in though. I called Laura across to introduce them and we chatted for a while. She was well-humoured but she still wanted to go in. She was saying I was stalking her and that I must have followed her, but I assured her it must have been God at work to put me there and catch her!!!

I told her I was about to get on my knees and beg her not to go in; she didn't like the sound of that at all! So we talked some more, and some how, by the grace of God, we got her to change her mind and cancel the app. We said we would go out to lunch instead and chat. The security guard didn't seem happy and we were precariously close to the door but somehow we stopped her from going in!

She said that across the road Billy had tried to give her a 'Good news' leaflet and told her that she should pray! He put her off so she walked past the building and had to walk back again to cross the road. Those few seconds meant that I happened to be crossing the road just as she came on to the pavement. 

God is so good. I've never felt so relieved to be walking away from that place. 

We got lunch and some ice cream, and had a really good chat. She said she was going home to tell her husband that she didn't go to the appointment and that she was keeping the baby! Hallellujah!! She thought that he would be happy because he had tried to talk her out of going this morning. As we got her metro card, I have her my Our Lady of Guadalupe medal that another sidewalk counsellor gave me a few weeks ago.  

As I left her, I pointed to the sky and said 'He's got everything in His hands. He loves you and He is going to protect you.' I hope she remembers that.  

God has big plans for this baby. So many people are united in prayer. 

God bless all you beautiful souls who prayed! Vx

Our Lady of Gaudalupe, pray for us.
St Michael the Archangel, pray for us.

We can see Him working (Part 1)

On Monday of this week, I was scheduled to meet with a client I told you about last week, to take her to an appointment with a prolife doctor. She had been told after her last baby that she would die if she had another. For this reason, and many others, she wanted an abortion. 

Long story short, we managed to get her to agree to go to this appointment, and get a second opinion, from a doctor who cared about her and would tell her the truth. We agreed to meet at  9:30am. 10am came and went. As did 10:30 ... and 11... 12... Excuse after excuse, and text after text, I was beginning to lose my patience. I knew that people were praying, and so I stuck it out outside the hospital for three hours until I seriously considered leaving. A woman who has been praying a lot for this girl text me to suggest I stayed for one hour longer. And thank God I did. 10 minutes later, I had a text to tell me she was coming! God is so good!

Following the appointment, we got a smoothie and sat outside to go over what the doctor had said. The key message was that, if he did the surgery, she would be better off having the baby than not. The delivery might be complex, but he assured her he could do it. We talked for about 3 more hours that afternoon, and she left to tell her husband what the doctor had said.

I truly believe that it was God's providence that the weekend before a few of us interns had been at Camp Esther where we met some amazing people who all promised to pray for her. Their support and love for this girl was beautiful to see. 

I went home that night feeling rather happy and content. However that wasn't to last very long. See Part 2 for more information!

God bless, Vx. 

Our Lady of Gaudalupe, pray for us.
St Michael the Archangel, pray for us.


Today was one most precious days I've had throughout this internship. It really is an honour to help these women, however I felt very blessed today with one woman in particular - I was able to witness women find inner strength through Jesus Christ and the Church. I have recently come to find that one of most beautiful things to witness is a woman in need realising that she can actually bring life into world, and that there are places out there that can help her. 

The Church can help - they are here for women in need. Life is the most precious thing, it's at the heart of our Christian message. We believe that life begins at the moment of conception, and that this person is unique and is created in the image and likeness of God. The Church is not judgemental. They're here to help both emotionally spiritually. Today I really felt the presence of the Holy Spirit at work,  in that she was drawn to our clinics. She could have very easily booked an abortion today at Planned Parenthood, where 'counsellers' receive commission on abortions, however here today she sat speaking to be not only about her baby but our faith. Jesus is well and truly present in the pro-life cause. 

Hope everyone has a very happy and blessed week.