When I counsel women I think about their hopes, their dreams, but mostly about all the fears they tell me about. All of that is very important, but we cannot leave aside their reality, they are pregnant, and that's something they cannot undo.
Once we talk I to them I realize a lot of women think that they just can put their pregnancies on hold and get back at them whenever they feel "ready". They think their babies will be stored and waiting for them to want them, but sadly that's not the case. Their babies are as unique as they are, and ending their pregnancies is ending their son or daughter FOREVER.
We cannot forget we are all miracles, and when I see girls coming back with their babies to the office, it's heartbreakingly beautiful. They are miracle babies, precious and loved in a unique way, because their mothers realized it, and fought for them.
After we coulsel girls, it is such as important to do the follow ups, as well as very frightening for the counselor. What if she was presured, if she felt cornered and didn't believe you coud really help her? But all that doubts disapear when you talk to them, when they tell you how loved they feel, and specially how they realized they love their child.
(Me with miracle baby)
My first follow up was a marvelous woman, she had struggled all her life, but once she saw her baby through the sonogram machine, she fell completely and unconditionally in love with her, and when I called her to see how she was doing, she told me she already had been set up with prenatal and was taking care of herself and her baby.
We will continue to help her, but the most important part has already been done. We loved and cared for her so she would be able to do the same for her child.
Once we talk I to them I realize a lot of women think that they just can put their pregnancies on hold and get back at them whenever they feel "ready". They think their babies will be stored and waiting for them to want them, but sadly that's not the case. Their babies are as unique as they are, and ending their pregnancies is ending their son or daughter FOREVER.
We cannot forget we are all miracles, and when I see girls coming back with their babies to the office, it's heartbreakingly beautiful. They are miracle babies, precious and loved in a unique way, because their mothers realized it, and fought for them.
After we coulsel girls, it is such as important to do the follow ups, as well as very frightening for the counselor. What if she was presured, if she felt cornered and didn't believe you coud really help her? But all that doubts disapear when you talk to them, when they tell you how loved they feel, and specially how they realized they love their child.
(Me with miracle baby)
My first follow up was a marvelous woman, she had struggled all her life, but once she saw her baby through the sonogram machine, she fell completely and unconditionally in love with her, and when I called her to see how she was doing, she told me she already had been set up with prenatal and was taking care of herself and her baby.
We will continue to help her, but the most important part has already been done. We loved and cared for her so she would be able to do the same for her child.
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