A New Idea

This week I spent some time counseling the boyfriends who came in with their girlfriends. Every time I speak with them I’m amazed at how open they are! I ask them such personal questions, and although they seem shocked that I would ask, they answer quickly and the walls come down. In fact, this week it’s seemed that the boys are more willing to talk than the girls! I opened one conversation, “So how long have you been dating and when did you start having sex?” They sometimes show a little shame or embarrassment when answering, but often they feel nothing.

                Occasionally the conversation will turn to me: “So how many kids do you have? What about your boyfriend? You don’t have a boyfriend? What are you waiting for?” I allow the conversation to go there because of the last question. I want to tell them what I’m waiting for. Their eyes go wide and you can see them start to wonder. If I believe in finding my one true love, then how many others are there like me? And if I can wait this long, then how many others are waiting? If I am happy waiting and expecting something wonderful, then maybe they could be happy doing that too. They know they aren’t happy with their lifestyle now, so to hear that there is another way and it isn’t just crazy church ladies following it – it gives them new hope.