A very beautiful girl she is; and from her composition and appearance, you will conclude she is of high social pedegree.
Unlike the girls i had attended to earlier in the day, she radiated with enthrawing smile. She had come for a sonogram not because abortion was on her mind but to calm her fears about the health of her unborn. As she waited to be called up for the examination, she narrated her past promiscuous life to me.
I know by now you all will have been familiar with the alcohol and multiple partner stories that are common to young adults, which also happen to make up this girl´s story. But i will not be giving the details not because i consider it banal but because the summary reveals an issue worth noting.
The twenty four year old who obviously had been sexually active since her teenage years concluded her story saying, "I thought it was part of the fun my parents told me to have". When she said that, i almost thought her silly. But on the second thought, it made meaning to me. Obviously her parents, just like most others, loved their child. They wanted her to have all the pleasures and priviledges financial hardship denied them as they grew up. They wanted to see her happy and enjoy life. It is a feeling i am familiar with though i am yet to be married(Please don´t ask me how).
However, this statement reveals that in desiring and approving fun or freedom for children, especially young adults, parents should be more thorough and specific. Some of these áctivities´parents expect their children to abstain from are deeds that are openly known to be wrong. And research has shown that parents possess the most influence on their children, at least while they are still young. Therefore, early specific and thorough information of what is expected of children shouldn´t be taken lightly.
Children should be educated on the difference between an excessive or unrestrained gratification of one´s own appetites, desire or whim from fun. For children and young adults, self- indulgence and fun virtually mean the same thing.
Unlike the girls i had attended to earlier in the day, she radiated with enthrawing smile. She had come for a sonogram not because abortion was on her mind but to calm her fears about the health of her unborn. As she waited to be called up for the examination, she narrated her past promiscuous life to me.
I know by now you all will have been familiar with the alcohol and multiple partner stories that are common to young adults, which also happen to make up this girl´s story. But i will not be giving the details not because i consider it banal but because the summary reveals an issue worth noting.
The twenty four year old who obviously had been sexually active since her teenage years concluded her story saying, "I thought it was part of the fun my parents told me to have". When she said that, i almost thought her silly. But on the second thought, it made meaning to me. Obviously her parents, just like most others, loved their child. They wanted her to have all the pleasures and priviledges financial hardship denied them as they grew up. They wanted to see her happy and enjoy life. It is a feeling i am familiar with though i am yet to be married(Please don´t ask me how).
However, this statement reveals that in desiring and approving fun or freedom for children, especially young adults, parents should be more thorough and specific. Some of these áctivities´parents expect their children to abstain from are deeds that are openly known to be wrong. And research has shown that parents possess the most influence on their children, at least while they are still young. Therefore, early specific and thorough information of what is expected of children shouldn´t be taken lightly.
Children should be educated on the difference between an excessive or unrestrained gratification of one´s own appetites, desire or whim from fun. For children and young adults, self- indulgence and fun virtually mean the same thing.
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