Friday, December 31, 2010

The man's role



It's easy to be the man in a couple who is pregnant. It's the woman who is faced with the real issues. The man is not pregnant, and in fact can never be pregnant and as such how could a man truly understand and relate to a woman’s pregnancy? If the woman chooses she can give birth and keep the baby, however if she chooses abortion she will end a life, the choice is solely hers in the United States. She will be admitted to the hospital to undergo childbirth or in the "hospital" while the"doctor" is killing your baby; while, you are in the waiting room reading the newspaper.


Is this our role? Of course not! A lot of woman come to us considering abortion. When asked about the father of the child, the majority of the time the relationship is not very good and often times we find that the man is pushing for abortion.


A lot of women say that if they were in a stable relationship they would have the baby. Where is the man? We should stand by our Significant Others and our children. We men also need to understand that children are a gift and not a “burden”. We need to stop being selfish and stand up as men, protecting our children and the women in our lives from the heart wrenching pain of abortion.


Remember, she holds the child in her body, but it is your child too. You should fight for the family and love it despite all the difficulties that arise. Men have much more of a role than we thought in the mind of the woman.



1 comment:

Melanie said...

I've noticed that a lot of men feel that it is being supportive to just say, "it is your choice", but to a woman it often feels like an abandonment or that he doesn't care about the baby. It doesn't always feel like support. IT feels like isolation. Anyway, that was my experience in many years talking to women who "chose" abortion (and who were not otherwise coerced.)