GENUINE REMORSE

A young couple walked into the Brooklyn Office on Tuesday for a pregnancy test. When she had it and tested positive, she proceeded for a sonogram to know how far long the pregnancy was; to her surprise, she was seven weeks. On knowing this, they both sat down quietly with a rueful stare into the space. The boyfriend looked so lost in thought that one would think he was the pregnant one confused because of the news. So I sat down with them and asked what their thought was and the boy poured himself out

He told me, with tears strimming down his face, that his mother warned him about premarital sex when she knew about his girlfriend. His mother didn´t just give a casual warning, but an intense and a pleaful one because she had alot of trouble training him as a young mother of fifteen years. She made him understand that abortion is no option so impregnanting his girlfriend will somewhat be a replay of what she went through when she had him, that was why she gave the warning. Now the deed has been done, they are young, and how is he going to face his mother who had pleaded with him to be abstinant.

I could practically feel the pain this boy was going through because everything about him showed he was sincerely sorry and remorseful. Although the girl didn´t cry, you could tell she also felt his pain. In her case, she said her mother had always told her if she ever gets pregnant,she should consider herself homeless, and despite that they have both decided to keep their baby.

I encouraged them to be as sincere as they were with me with their parents when they make the announcement. I believe that after the initial shock and disappointment, they all would still sit to talk as a family that they are.

My meeting with the two was really emotional and enlightening. I can really identify with them because in many ways i´ve been a victim of a forewarned ¨harm¨.