BETHANY.ORG: ITS YOUR CHOICE BUT YOU DONT HAVE TO MAKE IT ALONE.

I have had the marvellous possibility of knowing Bethany Organization employees (Bethany.org/UChoose). Yesterday I met two of this wonderful ladies in the EMC office in Queens.

Their work is amazing, they do a really really nice job at Bethany.

Bethany is a non-profit organization which seek for the well-being of the pregnants. Their councellors are professionals in the field of help and adoption.

A good choice is always the one you make with all the information about the issue. Make sure you are not deciding anything before going throught the reasons and realities of each alternative.

A Bethany counselor will help you find your own answers and repect your decisions. No matter what you decide, their services are completely free and confidential.

Nowadays the adoption is continue being an unknown election. People understand abortion and people understand what parenting involves, but people does not know exactly what adoption is. Here there are a few questions that can help you to answer yours about adoption, if you need more information, do not hesitate in contact Bethany services (EMAIL: pregnancyhelp@bethany.org).

1. How can adoption be a good choice for my baby and me? If you are not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby life by choosing adoption. CHOOSING LIFE IS ALWAYS THE BEST CHOICE!!

2. Can I choose the family for my baby? Yes! Most agencies have many adoptive couples who have been studied and approved. You might also want to choose a friend or someone who has been recommended to you.

3. How much will my child know about me? Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide social and medical history for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you directly, this is called: Open adoption. But there is a large range of adoptions: open, semi-open, close and confidential…

4. Can I get help with medical and living expenses while making an adoption plan? Assistance with medical and living expenses is available through many agencies. In many states, you will not need an attorney and also most agencies provide services to you at no cost. Usually those costs are paid by the adoptive family. 

INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE: WHAT IS IT/WHAT CAN I DO?

What is IPV? Is recognized as a complex process where in women feel high levels of vulnerability, powerlessness and coercion as a result of her partner´s systematic employment of physical, sexual, psychological and/or moral force.

Violence not only causes physical injury but also injured the social, psychological, spiritual and emotional well-being of the victim.

Each year in USA, IPV results in an estimated 1200 deaths and 2 million injuries among women (Black&Breiding 2005).

Pregnancy is a very vulnerable time for women in abusive relationships as the violence often begins or escalates during this time.

How common is pressure to abort? Pressure to abort can take a wide range of forms. The most common responses of women are:

-          My partner told me the decision was mine, but I knew he wanted me to terminate.

-          I aborted my child, because I knew my partner wanted me to.

-          I did not want to put my partner through a pregnancy he was not ready to deal with.

-          My partner said if I carried to term, he would not take an active role in the child´s life.

-          My partner influenced me to abort by using logical arguments such as Wouldn´t it be better to wait and have a baby when we´re really ready and able to love our child?

-          I aborted my child because I was afraid I would lose my partner if I did not.

-          My partner was furious about the pregnancy and said I had no choice but to abort.

-          My partner said he would physically hurt me if I did not terminate my pregnancy.

There is a strong necessity of effective IVP screening from the victims and from the health-care providers, who are likely to be the first professional contact for the victims.

In case you are thinking you could be a victim of violence, please, ask yourself “the SAFE QUESTIONS”, and keep in touch with a professional who can help you.

The SAFE questions:

-          S: Stress and safety: do you feel safe in your relationship?

-          A: Afraid or abused: has your partner ever threatened/abused you or your children?

-          F: Friends and family: if you were hurt, would your friends or family know? Would they be able to help you?

-          E: Emergency plan: do you have a safe place to go in an emergency? Do you need help in locating a shelter? Would you like to talk to a counselor about this?

We care about you, we can help you. 

WHAT THE IMPORTANT IS

To do this job the best we can, it is neccesary to keep our souls in peace and close to God. Every day we see people in serious problems and involve in really hard situations. We have to try to help them the best way we can and with the more love we can, and God is the one who provides this amount of love, this free love, to love everybody.

God is one of the best examples of living a hard situation without losing confidence and peace. We had to deal with a lot of problems in His life, and his mother, the Blessed Virgin Mary was pregnant with 17 years old, and she was alone with his husband Joseph.

For these reasons, we usually pray and attend to mass.

Last Saturday we went to an amazing Holy Hour in a very beautiful church called Our Lady of Good counsel, in Manhattan. There were a lot of young people praying. We prayed also for the women who are in trouble and for all the kids who are dying in abortion procedures. The prayer is a very powerful instrument to help others.

After the prayers, we could have the chance to go for a country concert near the church by a religious group of music. Superb!!!

Medical Conference WDC

On the 22nd february, in Washington DC took place the Matthew Bulfin Educational Conference. One of the most known conferences for Prolife OBGYN doctors and medical students.
It was a busy conference, with talks the whole day from 9am to 5pm.
It was amazing to see so many Pro-life people sharing their knowledge in order to help pro-life causes and investing time in being more useful in this area.

Different professionals gave speeches about a lot of topics related to the reality of the abortion clinics, truly reasons of abortion, prenatal care, natural methods for contraception and conception, care of kids with learn difficulties.
At the end of the conference, we met wonderful physicians and medical students who really care about life.
I have learnt a lot from them, not only data but also about their beautiful souls.

What a long weekend

This weekend has been a long one.
We went to Washington DC. EMC is trying to open one big pregnancy center in this city and we need support.

 Sunday mass near Washington DC

It is very important for EMC to have big supporters. Pro-life people who wants help us to help mothers in their pregnancy. Good people who think how important a life is, even in the womb of the mother. Good people who want to help mother to keep their babies. Good people who want to explain mother what a planned parenthood really is, what they do, what are the risks of the abortion procedures (no one have told them ever).
We need good people who believe that a better world is possible, and help us to make it true.
We hope the EMC center in Washington DC could be a reality in a short time.

 Interns in Mount Vernon, near Washington DC

What is going on?...An inside job

Lets talk about the reality of Planned Parenthood and Abortion clinics.
This is a very lucrative bussines, so they made a lot of fraude to get more money. This clinics do not follow the law, this video can demonstrate a bit of what is happening inside one of the clinics.
Even the doctors who practice the abortions, dont want to see the death babies. Every human being can tell that what they are doing is something wrong, so they dont like to see the results of the surgery.

Please, note that this video has hard scenes.

http://rescatadoresjp.wordpress.com/2012/02/10/una-camara-oculta-se-infiltra-en-la-clinica-el-bosque-de-madrid/

THE BABY ADVENTURE #3

Our last trimester...There we go!!

6th Month: 21-24 weeks
He/She grows rapidly in size and strength while her lung become more developed. 70% of babies born between 22 and 26 weeks lived past age one, thanks to modern medicine.

7th Month: 25-28 weeks
The baby can now recognize her mother´s voice. She exercises by stretching and kicking as she grows even bigger. She/He uses the senses of HEARING, TOUCH and TASTE and can even look around with OPEN EYES at her watery home.

8th Month: 29-32 weeks
The skin of the baby begins to thicken, with a layer of fat stored underneath for insulation and nourishment. Though movement is limited, due to cramped quarters, the baby´s kicks are stronger and mom may be able to feel an elbow or heel against her abdomen.

9th Month: 33-36 weeks
Gaining one half pound per week, the baby is getting ready for birth. The bones in her/his head are soft and flexible to more easily mold for the journey down the birth canal. 90% of a person´s development happens in the womb.

and...HELLO SWEETY!! WELCOME!!

THE BABY ADVENTURE #2

Continuing with our journey: The journey of life --> Watch out!! A miracle is happening in you girl!!! Do not fear! We are with you.

2nd Month: 5-8 weeks
By six weeks BRAIN WAVES can be detected by electroencephalogram. The baby begins to swallow amniotic fluid sometimes have been seen hiccupping.
STOMACH and KIDNEYS begin to function. FINGERS and TOES are developing and at 7weeks the CHEST and ABDOMEN are fully formed.

5weeks embryo

3rd Month: 9-12 weeks
The baby is very active even though mom cannot feel movement yet. He/she now sleeps, awakens and exercises the muscles.
The gender can be visually determined.

4th Month: 13-16 weeks
By the end of the 4th month the baby is 8-10 inches in length and weight about one-half pound. The EARS are functioning and can hear HER MOTHER´S HEARTBEAT, as well as external noises.
LIFESAVING surgery has been performed on babies at this age.

5th Month: 17-20 weeks
Thumb-sucking has been observed during the fifth month. 

THE BABY ADVENTURE #1

We are going through a marvellous journey. The journey of life. The human life is a mistery, which contain the best essence of the whole world. The women should know about what the baby looks like in each step of the pregnancy. We have to be inform because sometimes people would like to confuse us in order to make one decision or another.

Day 1: Fertilization
The sperm joins with the egg to form one cell. This complex cell contains and IS now a NEW LIFE itself.

1st Month: 1-4 weeks
The first cell divides in 2, and continues the division during the travel down the fallopian tube to the uterus. More than 500 cells are present when this embryo reaches the uterus.
In first month foundations of the BRAIN, SPINAL CORD and NERVOUS SYSTEM are already established and byy day 21 the HEART begins to beat. MUSCLES are forming and ARMS, LEGS, EYES and EARS have begin to show.

Let it snow...

Ayer fue un dia para recordar.
En la ciudad de New York una tremenda ola de frio, nieve y lluvia nos inundó hace 3 días.
Nos levantamos y vimos que había una espesa capa de nieve que cubría toda la ciudad. Los servicios de transporte de la ciudad estaban colapsados y mucha gente no acudió a trabajar. Pero los voluntarios de EMC nos fuimos a las oficinas como todos los días por si acudían chicas que necesitaran nuestra ayuda.
En un primer momento todo estuvo tranquilo, pero al final del día habían venido SIETE CHICAS en busca de ayuda!!!

Mereció mucho la pena haber ido a trabajar a pesar del mal tiempo, por haber podido ayudar a esas 7 chicas. Quedarse embarazada asusta, y más aun si hay algún problema externo: económico, no apoyo familiar, vergüenza de contarlo, el miedo de lo inesperado...pero estamos aquí para hacerte sentir que no estás sola en este camino, no estás sola con tu embarazo, que podemos buscar alternativas y soluciones.
Eso es lo que les dijimos a esas 7chicas que vinieron en todo este dia, y todas ellas cambiaron de opinión respecto a su embarazo; volverán a nuestras oficinas para que las sigamos ayudando a seguir adelante.
Well done!!

Sunny day

Today was my first in EMC as a intern. I went to the office early in the morning, full of good intentions but for the first hours no one came in. Instead of waiting until someone come, another intern and I, with the help of one of the workers here start to learn ourselves about the lastest scientific advances in pro-life area. We have learn a lot. We knew about the complication of the abortion in the mothers, but we have seen more deeply one by one and the terrible consequences to the mothers: psychological problems, a high death risk, fever and infections, problems with the next wanted babies... Also we have seen the difference procedures to complete an abortion depends on the time of the pregnancy, which are totally out of an horror movie. Are procedures very violent for both:mother and child; and the pregnants deserve to know what is going to happens with their children if they want to continue with the abortion. A lot of girls do not see or know this reality. We all should know the reality of the things that nowadays sounds normal for us: contraception and it consequences and procedures for abortion...it would change a lot of minds for sure.