Queens

This was my first week in the Queens office. I used my time to read about Breast cancer and do follow ups to my clients. I'm very upset because of one of them. She wants finally to keep the child, so her boyfriend broke up with her. I´m trying to do my best helping her. We are not only here to convice them to keep the babies, we have to support them during their pregnancy too. I'm sad of staying here only for three months, because I will not see those children walking. But well, they will be there. This is just an internships, but this are probably the most important weeks of our life. 

Truth about adoption

This past week I have been doing some research about adoption and why are people in general so skeptical about it, as if its some kind of taboo.

Well, the conclusion I have made is that in spite of what everybody thinks which is basically that adoption is for selfish  people who don't want to be responsible for the life of their child that they decide is better to kill it before its born and avoid him suffering. As if his life would be determined for what that girl has experienced so far, as if life is not worth living.

But that is not true: adoption is in fact for very brave and utterly selfless people who have realized and have accepted that they are not ready to be mothers, that they have really difficult or tough circumstances; women that live in a complicated atmosphere for raising a child, women who do know that they don't want what they would like or consider important to raise a baby; and they do the most important act of love and courage that any woman can make: to give her own child, her own flesh, whom she has carry inside of her for nine months, without paying attention to what the rest of the world could say; to another family, to a couple that cannot conceived but has been waiting ages for a baby, and knows that her baby would grow up surrounded by love, surrounded by everything he might need, and much of those couples allow the woman to continue visiting the child if she wants to do so. In order to continue with her professional career (if that was the problem) or to deal and solve her difficult own situation; but knowing that she made the right choice, knowing that her baby is alive, happy and is loved. Knowing that she didn't chose wrong.

So don't dare you to tell me, that abortion is selfish because my friends, it maybe the most difficult decision to make, and one of the most mature, but it would be a good decision. Your baby would always be thankful because you chose life for him instead of "just" going to an abortion facility and abort him, and then you place him in a family that loves him. If that is not good, then we don't know  what good truly means.

Abortion, an Holocaust in the Century 21th

          I always believed that after Second World War all countries thought that one disaster like that could be not repeated again. The United States was one of these countries. The President Truman said after knowing the Nazi Holocaust that the United States would never allow anything like that in the Word. Six millions of people were killed by nazis between 1939 and 1945, it was one of the worst human actions in our History.

          Do you know how many babies have been killed since 1971 in the United States? Fifty three millions of babies. In the United States have been committed more than eight Holocausts. Three thousand of American babies are killed every day. We should think about this. I believe that every body think that killing babies is not the same as killing adults or young people, but it is.

EMC again.

I participated like a volunteer in the summer 2013, it was an amazing time where around fifty young volunteers tried to save babys and help moms. And after year and a half, i`m back. I’ve been in New York City for five days working for Chris Slattery in EMC and ready to make all necessary effort to help.  That is the evidence that is an experience worth living. All of us are important to continue the enterprise, sometimes like a volunteer and another times like a benefactor, always with the same target, we want every baby to have a chance.

As Abraham Lincoln said, “we have simply tried to do what seemed best each day, as each day came”.

NOW OR NEVER

Today I’ve been to Planned Parenthood. It has been my first time there since I’ve been here and it has been a very interesting adventure.

When we arrived to the clinic, the first thing I was told is which line is the one which must not be crossed. That line divides PP into two zones; the saving and still with hope one, and the hopeless one which we called the “dead zone”.

While being out there, the major problem is that lots of girls arrive in a taxi to the “dead zone” so that doubles the trouble, because we have to try and get to speak with them from the “saving zone” which rarely is a success. Today we tried to speak with a lot of girls, but they zoomed from our side of the line to the other as if they actually knew which line it is. From all they girls we saw today, only a young couple actually stopped to talk to me. The girl was 18 weeks pregnant, was 17 years old and was going into PP to get information about prenatal care. I told them about EMC and how we could help them. They’ll be coming to our Brooklyn office next week.

I hope to go back another day; so much can be learned out there!

                                       

 "saving zone"                                                                                                     "dead zone"

                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                             


 

I'll adopt you'r baby

Today at work I pulled a very gutsy move..A girl was talking about aborting her baby. I showed her the video with her friend she was a catholic girl. She was freaking out saying how that is torture to the child yet after the video was over she said I need to do this before the baby is to far along I told her that the baby is already here. She then asked me what will she do with the child. I told her "I would adopt your baby" She began crying hysterically on the couch and literally put her face into the arm and just laid down and had a massive crying session. I believe this was out of surprise and the love they received when they went in there. Love always wins. We then began to talk about the bible. And how child sacrifice and murder is the same as an abortion. They asked me if I thought she'd go to hell. I told her I do believe there is forgiveness but If you were to go through with it knowing it's wrong and knowing you'r killing your child you are basically spitting in God's face and his love. She left with a mind changed :) keep on praying!!

Planned Parenthood

One day more in front of the enemies line. We still try to do our best. This morning I've been talking to a teenager who's girlfriend was inside for an abortion. He was really sad, and he thought that this was his only option. I told him about EMC and all kind of different options we can offer him but... no result. The only thing on my hand, is to pray for him and that woman. 

Being mother, the best choice

            What do you need to be happy? Maybe we need more money, having a bigger house or going every Summer to Hawaii. My mother thinks that having a great family is the best thing that she has had in her life. When a girl has a no desired pregnancy she always thinks about money or she is too young to be mother. Why they don't think that a baby could be somebody who gives them love and happiness?

             Being mother is not only spending money for your baby, it is seeing how your baby is growing up, it is going to his first football match or her first ballet dance, it is going to their wedding, it is becoming a grandmother... I have never met a woman who is be sorry to be mother.

Sidewalk counseling again

So the other day, before heading back to the Queens office, I was sent to Choices, the abortion facility that does more abortions in the five boroughs of the City.

I have done sidewalk counseling in the past, that it has been a while since my last time so I decided to talk and learn from some of the veterans that were there ir order to make the most of my time. And that was how I met Sister Dorothy.

Sister Dorothy is a nun that gives workshops to teach people how to approach the women that are running into the abortion mill, what to tell them, what to offer and how to offer it. She was great.

I realized that her main weapon was love, respect and comprehension. She never judge them, never yells at them or never force them to get their pamphlet or listen to her.

It was magical, I was shocked. I hope this week I could attend one of her workshops in order to improve my skills and be more helpful in the future. For the moment, still praying for the end of abortion.

FEELING GUILTY

This has been a different week. On Thursday Thanksgiving. On Saturday, my birthday. This, apparently, is a week to be thankful: for what we have, for the people we know, for the experiences we have, for the lives that touch us and the lives we touch, for the family, for friends, for chances, for choices, FOR LIFE.

On Friday Miss K came in, she is 24, married and mother of a three year old kid. She had an abortion performed in 2013 and, shockingly, she has had 12 miscarriages. She has a problem with progesterone, and needs to be treated from day one of pregnancy. Last week she was been treated in order to keep the baby, but this week she wanted an abortion. When I asked the reason, she told me that she was moving to another house and that timing was not a good one (sorry for the word, but: bullshit!). I used the emotional pain of the miscarriages and we talked about post-abortion syndrome, nevertheless, I was shocked with her answer: “When I have a miscarriage, I feel that I have done something wrong and that’s why I feel so hurt and guilty. With the abortion it was easier” SORRY????? Then I told her that that it’s not true, that the difference between an abortion and a miscarriage is that with the first one YOU KILL YOUR BABY, while in the second one YOUR BABY DIES for one reason or another. After speaking for a while, I recommended her to go back to her doctor (she has an appointment this week) and check that she is ok, she agreed to go, though she believes that she will change her mind if she does. Let’s hope that she does, let’s hope this doesn’t turn into her 2^nd abortion or her 13^th miscarriage.

Traumatized!

  So today a girl by the name of Ana came in. She was very sweet. Yet cold hearted. She already had a sonogram. Her and her boyfriend have been broken up for about a month. She has been thinking of having an abortion for two months she said. The her mind is already made up. Nothing I do or say can change her mind. I showed her the video of an former abortionist. She began to cry. She still wanted to do it even after talking with her about the health risks to herself. After telling her a story of my aunt who had an abortion. And was not able to have children. She said it wouldnt happen to her. It was weird how hard hearted she was about it yet was polite to me and left with a smile. This is a traumatizing experience not just for these girls and babies but also for us please keep us in your prayers.

Mothers

They used to be kind, they use to be nice, but sometimes they don't choose the best decision for you. Today, a 17 year old girl walked in. Her mother was with her. After talking to her for a while she left. The reason...? The mother wanted her abortion NOW, and she didn't want to wait for a free ultrasound in our Brooklyn office. It's hard, but it happens. There are some girls who have it really difficult to keep their child's, not because they want to, but because they are forced to.

The bad interpreter

Yesterday I went to the Brooklyn office and it was chaotic, we had around fourteen girls in the morning and I was constantly talking with someone, doing a pregnancy test, looking for information for their insurance or in the sonogram room. 

The roughest case I have had so far was the Russian woman's one. She only spoke Russian so I had to let her American boyfriend in, in order to translate the consultation and it was terrible.

We don't allow boyfriends or friends inside the room because we are going to discuss very personal stuff that maybe the girls themselves are too embarrassed to admit in front of someone that knows them and they know that because of the confidentiality agreement that we both signed they are safe and can say whatever they want.

With this girl was all very difficult because the boyfriend was answering the majority of the questions without even ask her or was refusing to translate some things or apparently changed my question into a different one. Anyway, her background was pretty tough: 37 years old, one four years old boy, 3 abortions and a pregnancy that she wanted to terminate (I'd rather say that HE wanted to terminate) because she was only here doing tourism, visiting his boyfriend but on February she had to go back to Russia. 

I told her that if her son was born in the USA they would allow her to stay with the baby here and she would be able to come whenever she want because her son would be an American citizen but it was impossible. The boyfriend said that they only want the abortion and there was nothing in this world that could make them (him) change their mind.

So they left seeking an abortion facility and left me very sad. I hope that woman is doing ok. I'm so sorry for th life of that baby. 

PERKS

When working at EMC, we do different kind of tasks: answer the phone, make calls, set appointments, counseling in the office, pray at the door of an abortion clinic and of course, speak about our work so that other people can get to know it and try it themselves.

The perks of this job are countless. I learn everyday to listen, to talk, to understand, not to judge, the difference between cultures but more importantly, I learn that every person is different, with their circumstances and their difficult lives. I learn from my co-workers, my research but mostly from the girls with whom I speak every day. Nevertheless, there is a thing that, as an intern, I won’t get to see, and it is the joy of meeting the babies I have saved.

Early this week, on my way to work, I took out on the subway an intake form in black, just to reread it. While I was holding it, a girl who was sitting beside me asked if I worked for EMC and when I said yes, she hugged me and told me: “Thank you guys so much! You saved my baby six months ago” She is having her baby in 18 days from today, so for the intern who did this: Congratulations!

Everything is easier if you are not alone

           One of most important problems that women who want to have an abortion is that they are so scared that they don't tell the truth to anybody. I know that it is very difficult for them  talking with their parents about an unwanted pregnancy. It is probably that your parents would be angry with you for some time but you should think that your parents or your brothers and sisters love you, and they will help you in worse situations. So I am going to tell you a true story.      

            A girl who had a great family was studying in a College in Spain, she was pretty and intelligent and her family loved her. The girl met a boy and she fell in love with him. One day she knew that she was pregnant and she felt afraid because her family were devout. When her family knew the news everybody felt angry and disappointed, but both parents told everybody that she had to be supported by all family. Nine months later was born a beautiful girl, all family were happy with that new member of the family. Actually that family is one of the best family in the world.

            Don't be afraid if you are pregnant. You haven't got a problem, you have a gift but don't forget that your family could help you like that girl.                                                        

            

Sidewalk counselling

First day of snow in NYC. Tomorrow we have thanksgiving day. We have been standing in front of the Abortion Clinic in the Bronx. We had less people coming in. Hopefully this means that for thanksgiving nobody is going to have an abortion. We hope. We pray.

 I took a picture of the inside paint. It speaks about "Right to choose" "No Sexisms" "Respect" "Live by choice not by chance" and even not visible "Abortionists are Heroes". I suppose that they use this messages to try to convince the woman.It sounds as terrifying and ironic as the famous "Arbeit macht Frei" in front of the  Nazi concentration camps. 

I Had a Dream!

      Sorry I do not have any photos to post with this particular client. However last week there was a girl in our office. Her name is Nadia. She left wanting to abort. I provided both her and her boyfriend with all the possible complications of an abortion the emotional and physical effects as well as what would happen to the baby. She went home she had a dream about her baby's future!!! She called me this morning she said I changed my mind... I don't want the abortion please help me with the services you told me about. I had a dream about the baby and honestly I don't care if my boyfriend likes it or not I'm having this baby. I pray that he will just fall in love with our child but I thought hard about there is no way I can actually go through with that! Praise God. For he is faithful and prayers are being answered!!!
   I am very thankful for her decision!! And just before thanksgiving. What more can you be more thankful for than a new member to the family?!?! I want to say that I am thankful for each mother who walks in that room. Wether they plan to abort or not. That is a new person God sent our way in order to touch they're life in some form of way. I am most certainly thankful for those who chose life I am thankful for the baby saved ffrom an abortion I got to hold. I am thankful for my neices and nephew. And my older brother who at 13 had his first child and had three more after word. I am thankful he is still with the same woman and they are all from her. I am thankful for my aunt who had an abortion..and she lost her fertility. I am thankful she is alive and is still as sweet as she is. I miss my family and friends dearly. I know it is God's will for me to stay a while longer. Above all his will must be done and not mine. Above All I am thankful for my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. For without him everything done and being done...would have no purpose we would all be damned to hell. There would be no second chance for me or you or any of these girls. It would all be in vain.  I know God would not send a baby to hell. So we are fighting for these children's only chance at life. For those who are in heaven. I love you little ones. I am thankful for you all too. There will be many babies to be held in heaven many adorable cute faces. Each unique and blessed. Thank God for his redeeming love and for everything he is.  

Sometimes a "d" and a "p" make a difference

I was talking with this girl at the Brooklyn office, she already told me that even if she wasn't sure about parenting the baby, abortion was no longer an option. So despite of the fact that I was afraid of bringing up the issue, I told her if she has considered adoption. She said "abortion? I just told you not" and I said "no, no: adoption, with a d and a p". She was quiet for a minute and then she said "you know what? I was thinking that maybe my exboyfriend's family would consider the option of taking care of him".

And so know here she is, discussing such an importan issue with the family of  his exboyfriend, even if she doesn't get along with him anymore, she is strong enough to realize that his family could take good care of this baby and she would not have to go through the tragedy of the abortion procedure.

One day I will tell you the story of one of my best friends, she is adopted and she is the best thing I ever had. So see you soon!

Planned Parenthood

Standing out there in the cold for a whole week. A guy with a pink dungaree of Planned Parenthood . Woman passed by. It seems like if we are not touching their heart. But we do. We always do. We are not only just standing outside. We are the last chance. Their last hope. We pray for them. We wait for them.

A NEW ADVENTURE

On Wednesday Miss L came into Queens’s office. She is a 16 year old girl whose face and appearance looked like she’s been through a lot of difficult things in her live, nevertheless, she was an easy smile girl and this made me feel a lot more comfortable.

As usual, our talk started with the form. While we were completing it, I tried to take the best out of each question, we talked about her family; how her mother had raised her as a single mom; her friends, her school, what she wanted to study in college, her boyfriend, etc. and then it came the most difficult question to do: “what do you plan to do with your pregnancy?” – “I don´t know” (that’).

– “Why? Why would you abort?” – “I am 16, I am very young, I’m still in High School, I don’t have a job” – “Ok, and why would you keep the baby?” – “My boyfriend wants to keep it, and so does his family” – “That’s great, having support is very important, does your mother know you are pregnant?” – “No, but she is finding out today, my boyfriend is telling her” – “What do you think she is going to say?” – “She’ll kill me” – “At first she might, but after that?” – “She will support and help me” – “I’m glad to hear that. What are your personal thoughts about having an abortion?” – “Well, I had one when I was 12 and a second one when I was 13, so I am familiar with the feeling. This year it would have been the first year of nursery school for my older baby” – “Would you be able to go through that feeling all over again?” – “No, I know I didn’t do the correct thing, not for me not for my babies… I don’t know. You are making me think! PERHAPS I’M READY FOR A NEW ADVENTURE” – “You are! and in EMC we can help you!”

No healthy? Kill them

          Have you noticed that there are not a lot of child's with Dawn's Syndrome? I am going to tell you the truth. Nowadays we have the best technology for knowing all about a pregnancy, sonograms are one of the best things of these, we can know the size of the babies, hearing their hearts and knowing if they are sick. Now a lot of pregnant women have an abortion because they don't want a sick baby.                                                                                                                                                   It is ironic that when somebody finds a cat with a broken leg he feels sad, sometimes he helps to that cat. That is the truth in this world, a hurt cat is more important than a human baby. Greenpeace says the we are monsters because we allow that thousands of threes are cut every year, but they don't say anything when in the United States are killed three thousand of babies every day. Abortion doctors say that if you baby is not healthy kill him, your next baby could be healthy. You are not healthy doctor, you are crazy and you should go to a madhouse, because nazis killed babies too because they said that their race were not the best.

Brothers in arms!

    Yesterday at Planned Parenthood I was able to speak briefly with 5 women...They all still went in and it as quite discouraging. These men here showed up and we began speaking about God and abortion. We exchanged numbers and said they would like  to help. The one man. The bigger fellow was very outspoken. He actually began to call the abortionists babykillers and such. I told him even if it is true we must be very careful how we speak. These girls who are pregnant are already scared enough they want to feel like your on their side. Not Just there because you hate the clinic you must genuinely care about them. This is the only way they will listen to you. Not with shaming them or calling them names.
          He told me of how he had a daughter and he cannot imagine such an atrocity happening to her. The other man spoke of how he would make sure the place was destroyed if he had the money. I told him it wouldn't be that easy. Especially with the history behind the business. So I also shared with them the truths behind Margaret Sanger. How she spoke at KKK rallies and hated blacks and hispanics. They were not surprised in fact they had more stories of their own about rascism to share with me. In any case. I pray that they would join us. Please continue to pray for us and them and against Planned Parenthood and the devil's schemes.

Why EMC?

         When I was in Spain I thought that I was a good person. I went to Mass every Sunday, I helped doing house work and I studied, but I felt that I lived in a place where everything was too easy. I talked with my mother and she told me that if I was not happy with my shelf I should go out of Spain and do something that could help people. My sister had been in New York two years ago and she told me that helping women who want to have an abortion was the greatest thing that she had done in her life.

         I came to New York a month ago. Now I can say that I agree with my sister. Sometimes I feel frustrated because of my horrible English, and think that I could do more. Even with this problem, a few clients have changed their decision after talking with them. That makes me feel better than a general who has won a battle. It feels wonderful when I work for this great family called EMC.   

GOOD AND BAD NEWS

Ok guys, I know I should tell you about my experience here, but this week something happened related to what brought me here and I feel that I should share it.

I went to the same Catholic School for fifteen years, the group of friends I have now was formed within the last two months of our senior year. My friends are one of the most important things in my life, we are thirteen girls who love and help each other, all of us are very good friends. One of these lovely girls is Patricia.

On the first year of college Patricia told us that she was pregnant, her boyfriend was (sorry for saying this) an idiot. When she told me about it I felt… I don’t know, I think it was mostly pity for her; she was nineteen and dropped her studies in order to start to work and be able to raise her child. On November, 3, Gary was born. Then, she told us that her relationship with her boyfriend was over. Nevertheless, six months later she called me and told me that she was pregnant again. I told her that everything was fine, that I was always going to be there for her, but when I hung the phone I cried, I couldn’t believe it! On January, 6, Elisabeth was born.

These babies have been a huge part of my life since they were born, I have changed diapers, played, fetch them from nursery school, gone to the park, bathed them, etc. I love them so much!

This Monday Patricia called me and broke the news that she is expecting her third baby, the father is a different one, her two children are excited and painting things to welcome him.

Can you imagine how I felt? She is a waitress in a restaurant, she is 23, has no studies apart of high school, she earns very little and doesn´t receive any help. But even with all this, THANK YOU GOD, BECAUSE SHE NEVER THOUGHT OF ABORTION! My friend Patricia is a brave woman who has given up her dreams for her children’s shake.

Who says boyfriends weren't supportive?

                                                  

So today I had a wonderful day, a beautiful 18 year old girl came, she wasn't sure wether she was going to parent or not so while she was in the bathroom taking the pregnancy test I started talking to her boyfriend. They have been together for just two months but I asked him if he loves her and he said: "yes, I have been after her for a long time and now I am not going to screw it up by having her abort our baby, we are going to be parents!".

So when she came with the positive test in the hand I asked both of them to watched the video of the abortion procedure and the risks and consequences that it entails and I must say that while we were talking was the boyfriend the one that said the majority of things that helped her changed her mind.

I was surprised because I wasn't expecting such a good reaction so I told them "you are being very brave and you are making the best decision". They left the office very proud of themselves and saying "we know". So I expect them to come back in about three weeks for a sonogram. I'll keep you posted!